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Living in peace is about living harmoniously with yourself, others, and all sentient beings around you. While your definition of a peaceful life might vary from someone else’s, there are things you can do to promote peace in your life. Strive for more peaceful relationships, create a peaceful environment for yourself, and encourage peace in your community. With persistence and patience, you can enjoy the peaceful life that you are seeking.



Promoting Peace in Your Relationships

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    Eliminate toxic people from your life. If you have someone in your life who criticizes you, starts arguments for no reason, or blames you for their problems, this can interfere with your sense of inner peace. Distancing yourself from this person may help you to feel more at peace in your daily life, especially if the person is someone you see often.[1]
    • To reduce your contact with a toxic friend, make plans with other people and come up with ways of avoiding the other person, such as by politely telling them you’re busy. Try saying something like, “I’m sorry, but I’m busy all week. I’ll catch up with you some other time.”
    • If you have a toxic family member, set boundaries with them to reduce their impact on your life. For example, if you have a family member who frequently asks you to drop everything to help them, try saying something like, “I can’t help you if I already have plans, and I need at least a few days notice when you need my help.”
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    Forgive people and avoid holding onto anger. While it can be frustrating when someone wrongs you, it doesn’t do any good to hold onto anger towards them. It will only cause you stress and interfere with your ability to live in peace. Instead, allow yourself to forgive the person for hurting you and release the anger that you feel towards them. This will help to bring you inner peace.[2]
    • For example, if someone calls you a name, don’t obsess over ways to get back at them. Try saying something to yourself like, “It was mean of him to call me that, but it’s done and over. I forgive him for what he said and hope that our interactions will be more positive in the future.”
    • You could also write a letter to the person that you don’t send. In the letter describe how the person hurt you and then state that you forgive them because it’s what is best for you.
    • Keep in mind that forgiveness lifts you up and frees you from resentment. Forgiveness is about learning to cope with the negative feelings that arose as a result of the act that made you angry and acknowledging those feelings rather than burying them.
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    Help people resolve conflicts without fighting or resorting to violence. When you encounter people having a disagreement or when you’re having a disagreement with someone, look for ways to resolve the matter peacefully. Invite them to participate in problem solving with you and avoid raising your voice, name-calling, or doing other things that might lead to violence.[3]
    • For example, if your siblings are arguing over the TV show they want to watch, you might say something like, “You both want to watch a different TV show. What can we watch or do so that you’ll both be happy?”
    • Or, if you’re upset with a friend for lying to you, you might say something like, “I value your honesty. What can I do help you to trust me more?”
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    Use positive terms to express yourself. If you’re trying to express yourself in a tense situation, you might find yourself resorting to negative language, such as by telling someone what they cannot or shouldn’t do. Instead, look for ways to express your needs in a positive way. Avoid using the words “no,” “never,” and “don’t.”[4]
    • For example, if you’re trying to tell someone to lower their voice, don’t say “No yelling!” or “Stop shouting!” Instead, try saying something like, “We all speak softly indoors,” or “This is a space for peaceful words and quiet communication.”

    Tip: When you're angry, find a nice quiet place to stop, take a deep breath, and relax. Turn off the TV or computer. Get out into nature if possible, or go for a walk.

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    Promote peace in your workplace. Talk with your human resources manager to find out what policies are in place to promote a peaceful workplace, such as equality policies and conflict resolution strategies. Strive to get along with all of your coworkers as well. Some ways you can do this include:[5]
    • Being kind and helpful to your coworkers
    • Not participating in workplace gossip and politics
    • Treating your coworkers as members of your team rather than competing with them


Creating a Peaceful Environment

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    Practice gratitude for what you already have. Trying to fill your life with more possessions may leave you feeling perpetually unhappy. However, practicing gratitude for what you already have can help you to feel happier and more peaceful. Try making a list of 10 things you are grateful for every day.[6]
    • For example, you might be grateful for a bed to sleep in, a roof over your head, a good cup of coffee, or a hot meal.
    • Focus on the things in your life that you have and value rather than always trying to get more.
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    Make your bedroom a comfortable oasis from the outside world. If you always have a calm place to go at the end of the day, you may find it easier to live in peace. Start by cleaning up and decluttering your room to make it a more inviting space. Then try adding decorative touches to make it more inviting. Some things you might try include:[7]
    • Incorporating warm lighting, such as a dim lamp, string lights, or flameless candles.
    • Placing soft blankets, pillows, and other inviting items on your bed.
    • Using scented candles and room sprays to create a pleasant scent.
    • Placing a small bouquet of flowers or a houseplant on your dresser.
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    Listen to relaxing music throughout the day. Music can help you to feel more at peace if the music you’re listening to is also peaceful. Choose relaxing music, such as classical, electronic, and new age, or any other type of music that you find relaxing. Listen to it during the day while you’re working or studying, or in the evening when you’re getting ready for bed.[8]
    • Nature sounds can also help to promote a peaceful environment. Try listening to ocean waves, rain sounds, or other nature sounds that you find relaxing.
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    Create a comfortable space to use for meditation. Meditation is an excellent way to promote inner peace, and having a designated area for meditation may help you to feel more at peace when you begin your daily meditation. Try setting up a peaceful area in your bedroom, such as in a corner or against a wall. Keep the area clean and clutter free so that you can always escape to it for a moment of peace.[9]
    • Place a few comfortable cushions in this area to make yourself comfortable when you are sitting down.
    • Include a houseplant or water fountain to enhance the sense of calm.
    • You can also include a focal point object that makes you feel at peace, such as a candle or a figurine.
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    Spend time outside to enjoy the peacefulness of nature. Spending time in nature is an excellent way to feel more at peace. The sights, sounds, smells, and feeling of being outdoors will help to relieve stress and make you feel calm. Try taking a daily walk in nature to give yourself some peaceful time to relax and reflect.[10]
    • For example, you can go for walks around your neighborhood, hike on nature trails, or walk along the beach.

    Tip: If possible, spend 10 minutes in a peaceful place, such as under a shady tree or in the park, or anywhere you can sit quietly without distractions.


Contributing to Peace in the World

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    Volunteer in your community to help people in need. Look for ways that you can help other people in need and assure them that there are people who care. This will help to promote peace in your community by providing additional resources to people in need. Volunteering also helps to promote a sense of well-being, so you may feel happier as a result. You can volunteer with any organization that you believe is doing good work in your community.[11]
    • For example, you could volunteer at a homeless shelter, an animal shelter, a soup kitchen, a meal delivery service, or literacy program.
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    Join with other people in your community to promote peace. Peace takes many people working together to achieve. Find out if there are any groups in your community that work to promote peace and join one that appeals to you. These may include interfaith groups, community peace coalitions, or special interest groups, such as anti-bullying groups.[12]

    Tip: Think about what your special skills and talents are and how you might use these to promote peace in your community. For example, if you’re artistic, you might create flyers to promote a peace-focused group or event.

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    Attend events, rallies, and protests meant to promote peace. Participating in events that are meant to promote peace is another great way to get involved. Watch for events in your community that are about promoting peace and get involved in any way that you can.[13]
    • These events may range from fundraisers for non-profit organizations, to rallies meant to raise awareness about violence in your community, to peaceful protests meant to influence government officials.

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    How do I live in peace with someone who is an unrepentant nuisance?

    You either tolerate or you leave. The choice is yours. If it is possible for you to tolerate, do it. If you are lacking patience, then you should avoid that person. You know your comfort zones and all answers lie within you.

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    How can I learn to not care about something negative?

    Ask yourself: Does this affect me as a person? Will the world end if this thing happens? Try to experiment with the thought of living with or without it and try to let go of your needs for it or expectations. Accept it as it is and watch it pass you by without letting it affect you. You are not this negativity, it is only something that has happened. Try to see it as just a thing. The only thing that makes it negative is your own opinion for it in your mind. The thing itself won't be affected by the way you think of it.

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    What should I do if my boyfriend is cheating on me?

    Leave him.

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    I hold grudges. How can I learn to forgive and forget?

    Remember that forgiveness is important for you too. Holding a grudge breeds negativity that hurts you as much as it hurts the person that you are holding a grudge against. Learn to talk it out gently with the person that wronged you. Then let it go and look forward.

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    How can I create a peaceful society?

    Mother Theresa said, “What can you do to promote world peace? Go home and love your family.” In other words, it starts with one person at a time, and it only makes sense to start at home. You can promote this ideology by spreading it to people you know, both in person and through social media.

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    I have a kid with anger issues at my school. How can I be friends with him?

    Enlighten him with your happiness. Be cheerful around him. Compliment him when you see him doing something well. Try to pay attention to what kind of things trigger his anger so you can avoid that behavior.

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    How do I let go of a person whom I have loved?

    Letting go on any level can often be difficult. Remind yourself that you are strong and independent. Distracting yourself with other activities can also be an effective method of working through a painful situation in your life.

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    How do I deal with people that are prejudiced against my religion?

    Ignore them. Turn the other cheek. Let your religion give you peace and don't worry about what others think about it. Be who you are and pray for the ignorant people.

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    How do I live in peace if I have a bully?

    Kill him/her with kindness! If you are nice to the bully, hopefully the bully will not bother you. Do not try to attack him/her with hurtful words or violence. Just call a trusted adult for help if you need it. However, if it doesn't work, you might just want to avoid him/her.

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    I'm muslim. Will this guide still work?

    This set of tenets are found worldwide throughout faiths: Jewish, Christian, Hindu, Muslim, and more. So it should still work for you.

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  • Learn to love yourself more. By loving yourself, you may find it easier to spread love and peace to other people.
  • Perform random acts of kindness to brighten other people’s days. This may help to promote peace by spreading joy in unexpected ways.
  • Compliment people and avoid making negative comments about others. Don’t gossip about your friends, family, coworkers, neighbors or other people. Aim to say only nice things about other people.